I was doing a little bit of searching earlier, looking for information about civilian male military spouses and deployments. Took the following screen shot early in that process. It seemed somewhat apropos somehow.

My friend "Teppy" is a paralegal who's also an Army Reserve NCO. She's been though two Middle East deployments so far.

A few months ago, her and her husband (who's an attorney),went to a VFW hall, where Teppy decided to join, since they were having a membership drive.

The woman in the VFW auxiliary handling the membership could NOT get it though her head that Teppy was the veteran and her husband was the civilian spouse. They repeatedly filled out the forms, gave it to the woman, who then said "oh no dear, you filled them out wrong. You need to fill out the auxiliary membership form....."

It took the VFW post commander to finally go "no, she's the vet, he's the spouse, get a clue and process the damn membership".

I have similar problems with civilians while I was in the military. I can't count how many times folks thought my name was Kathy because they wrongly assumed that I couldn't have said "captain" and they had to have misheard what I said. Or they'd something like "no dear, we need your husband SSN since HE is the sponsor. And I'd have to explain once again that I WAS my sponsor. It's sad that that doesn't seemed to have disappeared -- yet.

I have to say I have never experienced my rank being mistaken for the name Kathy, but now I'll be alert for that possibility. I've only been a CPT for a year so maybe it's yet to come. I have, however, been asked who my husband was at FRG events.

Welcome, pageproducer.

Aloha and welcome from Hawaii, page producer. Mike, your thread is sadly appropriate.

I think any military spouse is as much a hero as their serving partner, but men also have to deal with a tradition-bound support system that's much more female-friendly.

My wife is retired now and I was thankful that we only had to call on the support system one time in 22 years: she was called to active duty for several months and the school district she was working for tried to fire her. We were a little shaken at first, but turned everything over to JAG and after a journey all the way to SCOTUS, the district was told in no uncertain terms not to ever try THAT again.

The only thing that surprises me about that is that there are still employers who apparently don't know doing that is illegal and, worse, would do it if it were legal.

And they have no compunction in doing it to folks who could very well lay down their lives so that the employers can do business and eat. They all seem to be named Richard Cranium.

Here is the secret link.

Open the "new" link from the left corner of each section within a new tap to get the latest "secret" info.

This is why assholes jabbering on about "job creators" can, frankly, kiss my lily-white ass. As if they're "creating jobs" as some act of fucking charity and we should all bow down and worship them. And those are the ones actually creating jobs, not the so-called "job creators" who are actually investment bankers or some other nearly parasitic occupation.

The real "job creators" are you and me.

Welcome.

I'm looking forward to seeing the site.

Welcome and Thank YOU for your service. I know folks say that to the service member, and they forget who keeps that service member in the field fighting for good old Uncle Sam.

I know that without Mrs. Sue DB, my 20 would have been much harder. Gotta love that woman...

You lost me on this one.

I love the View Active Topics pages linked and was adding some snark since it is only available to registered users who are signed in.