MRich wrote: ↑
Sat Apr 21, 2018 6:52 pm
My dad is 87. His mother died at 91 from Alzheimer's; his older brother died at 77 from it (less than a year after diagnosis).
My dad is physically very healthy. He is outside all the time, taking care of the garden, the yard (double size, hedges), and whatever else needs done, so he's very active even though he is slowing down. And mentally, he's starting to get forgetful and absent minded, but he hasn't shown any signs of dementia.
But in the last few days, his mental state has me rattled. My mother's brother died a couple days ago, and maybe that has something to do with it. But when we were talking about going to the funeral, and I was telling them I would arrange for the hotel, he asked me if he should go to the bank and get traveler's checks. I said "what for?" - I was genuinely flabbergasted. He said "for the hotel." I told him we would use his credit card and he said "will a hotel take that?" I assured him that it would, that no one uses traveler's checks any more, and a hotel clerk probably wouldn't even know what one was. He seemed a little confused, but he dropped the matter.
Then last night I was with a friend and my mother called - she couldn't find my father, she'd looked all over the house and yard. She was really upset (rightly so), so I said I would be there in 5 minutes. As I neared the house, I saw my father walking along the road. I pulled over and rolled down the window and said "What the HELL are you doing?" and he said "I'm walking." He didn't act confused at all - he knew exactly where he was - he just wanted to take a walk. I told him to GET. IN. THE. CAR. He said he wanted to finish his walk, but I insisted and he got in the car, where I told him that Mom was going to kill him for worrying her. He wanted me to just drop him off at the driveway - I think he was figuring he would sneak back in the house - but I said I was going in with him, and he looked at my friend and said "you better come in too." He figured it would be safer with a non-family member there.
So, one incident of just weirdness, and another incident of thoughtlessness. If just one occurred, I would shrug it off, but ... well, I'm worried. In a couple days, we'll be heading to the funeral - 5 hours in the car (me driving), then 5 days of funeral stuff, visiting family, etc., and the drive back. I guess I'll be able to get a better idea of his mental state after that.
Just wanted to share this with someone, and it's helping me to vent a little.
Like the topic says - Aging is not for fraidy cats.